Boundaries Aren't Selfish 💜

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Boundaries Aren't Selfish 💜

Here's How to Finally Set Them

Miss Lana Lee

Apr 29, 2025

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"If you were taught that boundaries = selfishness, this is for you."

Growing up in a culture that prioritizes collectivism over individuality (sound familiar, Asian fam? 👋), many of us learned that connection meant abandoning ourselves.

The result? Two survival modes:

➊ People-pleasing to get your needs met (quietly resentful?)
➋ Harsh boundaries that push others away (lonely, much?)

Here’s the truth: Boundaries aren’t just what you say—they’re how safe you feel in your body.

If setting boundaries terrifies you, it’s often because you fear punishment… or losing connection.

✨ Try This Somatic Practice ✨

Close your eyes.

Envision a golden-white bubble around you—impermeable yet flexible. You get to choose its size.

You are SAFE in the bubble. The bubble protects you.

Feel your toes, legs, pelvis… How does safety radiate through you? How does it feel IN YOUR BODY when you feel safe?
Remember this energetic signature.
Now ask: What do I want to communicate to the world?

This is where boundary work begins: energy before words.

You need to feel safe before you can speak your needs.

🔍 Dive Deeper

My upcoming program blends shadow work + somatic practices to help you:
✓ Set boundaries without guilt
✓ Reclaim your power and your relationships
✓ Unravel ancestral patterns that keep you stuck

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💬 Discussion Prompt: Which survival mode do YOU default to?

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👉 P.S. For daily tools on healing people-pleasing and rewriting subconscious and cultural scripts, follow @NicoleLanaLee on Instagram.

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